— Not everything is clear, Mr. Bardi.
— There are things that if you don’t understand, yourself and right away, no one can ever explain to you. Rejoice that you do not understand them, the better for you. Better understand how reliable the goals you are striving for are.
— What are my goals?
— You strive to become a full member of the community, and do everything to enter the «TAG1 Council, right? Do you understand well why you need it? Are you sure this is your goal, you know what price you have to pay for it?
— What will be the price?
— Your eternity, ha ha, – Bardi gulkly jammed with an evil and frightening laugh, from which his interlocutor felt uneasy. – Define goals right, so as not to be disappointed in achieving it. Anything else Mr. Burns?

 

Be free

For the right choice of goals, personal freedom of a person is necessary. Freedom can be defined as the ability to make your own choices. Born free, a person is the master of his affairs and thoughts. This means he has the right to know what he is doing and why. And he has the right to know what he thinks and why. Be able to separate your true desires from desires imposed by society. A person has the right to know exactly not only what he wants, but also why he wants it. And you need to know this for sure so as not to confuse the goal and means.

 

What else is this for? In order not to lose the right to choose, to be able to define and reject imposed values, clearly understand what is really valuable to you, to know your goals and the paths leading to them. To make a choice yourself, and not obey the choice made by someone. In order not to spend your resources on performing alien tasks. To be a person, not one of the «robots » controlled from a single center.

A person whose expression of will is influenced by his mental problems is not free! Accordingly, to gain freedom, it is necessary to get rid of all mental problems. Which is personal growth. Personal growth can only be defined as deliverance from mental problems, and gaining complete mental health. Free chooses for himself, they choose the free. Only the unfree remains illusion of choice, illusion of freedom.

Makes the mind free

There are two wonderful statements:

1.«Mind is a wonderful friend, but a bad host » (cf. English wisdom);

2.«If you want to subjugate everything to yourself, obey your mind » (ancient Roman).

It may seem right away that they are controversial. But there are no contradictions in them, they simply complement each other.

Of course, you can designate three parts of the mind.

Instinctive mind - a mind aimed at survival: make money, achieve a position in society, and so on. One manifestation of the instinctive mind is  cunning. The potential for development is low.

The logical mind – part of the mind responsible for the ability to systematize and analyze information with its subsequent synthesis. In other words, the ability to draw conclusions based on the information received. Logical thinking, common sense. People are called mind. The potential for development is huge. Logic, logical thinking is the basis of a healthy psyche, and an indispensable assistant in correction personality disorders.

Spiritual mind – a person’s ability to perceive and transmit information using his spiritual components, is source intuition. The multifaceted concept. Food for him is high human feelings, for example, a sense of gratitude. The potential of development, in the universal sense, is endless. In case of underdevelopment of the spiritual mind, a person has boredom. Boredom, in turn, leads to excesses. Excesses lead to degradation of the spiritual mind.

These three parts are three sides of the whole. Sometimes they can conflict with each other, but conscious is crucial human choice. In general, the mind is the strongest tool, and it’s stupid not to use it in full. At the same time, do not forget that the mind is not you, it is your assistant. The unique first assistant with whom you correctly determine your goals and achieve them.

Intelligence

There are many definitions of intelligence, but not one reflects its entire essence. Since intelligence is a general concept, its definition can also be common. Intelligence can be defined as a person’s ability to exhibit the properties of his mind. The main task of intelligence is to perceive, accumulate and process information. Accordingly, the main components of intelligence are memory and logical thinking.

Now there is a tendency to – test for intelligence to reduce, to tests for systemic thinking. Such a substitution contributes to the development of people's skills but not knowledge. Label, quick wits and systemic thinking are manifestations of intelligence. Intelligence is the ability to perceive, accumulate, process and use information.

System thinking – ability to determine the principle of building or operating various logically ordered systems.

Skills are good, but when they replace knowledge, a person becomes like a robot controlled by radio. In the normal mode of its existence, the mind is constantly developing. Why does he need a thought process of a certain intensity. The material for the thought process is information. In the absence of the proper amount of information, thinking begins to take pity, critical thinking weakens, a person becomes more manageable.

Critical thinking – the ability of the mind to deeply and quickly analyze incoming information.

A person’s behavior depends on his unconscious and conscious beliefs, and a situational process. Lack of critical thinking can lead to distortion of the perception of situations, which in turn will lead to distortion of behavior. In this case, a person, without realizing it, can renounce the right to choose, and therefore personal freedom.

Why, having such powerful tools, does Man remain not free? There is a certain opinion on this score:

„Most people really do not want freedom, because it implies responsibility, and most people suffer responsibility “  (Z. Freud).

Can fear of responsibility make it proprietary? But the fear does not meet someone's expectations? And the fear of failure or the fear of making a mistake? Could there be a fear of large objects with vague outlines? Obviously, fears, or, more precisely, their source – Fear, can make a person not free. Fear can be a companion of the most daring, outwardly, people. Some people live for them, often using it instead of conscience, not realizing that they are giving up freedom.

 

Striving for the goal

Intention – determination to complete actions to achieve the chosen goal.

Aspiration – identification and implementation of planned actions to achieve the selected goal.

The pursuit of the right goal – is the desire for success. Purposefulness must be reasonable. The pursuit of the goal must be accompanied by a focus on the successful achievement of the tasks chosen by the goal.

There are two different motives that are functionally related to human activities aimed at achieving success. This is the — motive for success. and the motive for avoiding failure.

People motivated by success usually set themselves the goal, the achievement of which can be clearly regarded as success. They are distinctly show a desire, at all costs, to achieve only success in their activities, seek such an activity, are actively included in it, choose the means and prefer actions aimed at achieving the goal. Such people expect success, that is, taking on some kind of work, they necessarily expect to succeed, are confident in this. They expect to receive approval for actions aimed at achieving the goal, and the related work causes them positive emotions. In addition, they are characterized by the complete mobilization of all their resources and a focus on achieving the goal.

People who are motivated to avoid failure behave in a completely different way. Their explicit goal in activity is not to to succeed, and in avoiding failure, all their thoughts and actions are primarily subordinate to this very goal. Man originally motivated by failure, shows self-doubt, does not believe in the opportunity to succeed, is afraid of criticism. With work, especially this one which is fraught with the possibility of failure, he usually has negative emotional experiences, he does not feel the pleasure of activity, burdened by her. As a result, he often turns out to be not a winner, but a defeated one.

People focused on achieving success are able to more correctly assess their capabilities, successes and failures and usually choose their profession, corresponding to their knowledge, skills and abilities. People focused on failures, by contrast, are often characterized by inadequate professional self-determination, preferring for themselves or too light, or too complex types of professions. At the same time, they often ignore objective information about their abilities, have high or low self-esteem, unrealistic level of claims. People motivated by success are very persistent in achieving their goals. With too easy and very difficult tasks, they behave differently than those who are motivated to fail. With the dominance of motivation to achieve success, a person prefers tasks of medium or slightly increased difficulty, and with the predominance of motivation to avoid failure — tasks, the easiest and most difficult.

 

Healthy Psychic Condition

Only one who can afford not to lie is free.

 

The main reason for most psychological problems is the lack of love, care and attention:

- in early childhood;

- here and now.

Not all mental problems come from childhood. Here and now, a person can also create a problem for himself if he refuses the natural in favor unnatural. Low human properties, for example, envy and meanness grow on the basis of a lack of love for people, and contribute the appearance of mental disorders, often being a prerequisite for their appearance.

Lying

In computer science, — is false information. False may be facts, information. AT Stern defines a lie as a conscious misrepresentation, which serves to achieve certain goals by deceiving others. Lies may be in the form of action or inaction. For example, silence on facts can also be defined as fraud.

You can divide into 2 types:

• lies to the world around us;
• a lie to yourself.

The following 2 types:

• conscious lie;
• unconscious lie.

 

The more a person lies, the faster and stronger it becomes his habit, the more difficult it is for him to give up lies. Over time, the lie becomes so strong that a person becomes addicted to it, which means he becomes not free. There is a feedback, so in turn, non-freedom is the cause of the appearance of lies. Therefore, lying is a companion to the most dangerous addictions.

Lying is the main condition for a mental disorder, it comes with fear, to the place where love was supposed to be. Accordingly, the main condition for a healthy psyche is UPRIGHTNESS. The meaning of this topic is well shown in the film "The Magnificent Scam" according to the book of Eric Garcia. The main character of the film, rejecting the natural - to live in love, chose the unnatural - to live in a lie. Despite all his external viability and success, he suffers from a mental disorder and is very tormented, not finding a means that could help him. He was helped by his friend, who made him "easier" for a million dollars and accidentally reminded him of his love for people. As a result, the main character recalls about the natural state for a person, and becomes a mentally healthy, happy person.

The most harmful and dangerous lie for the psyche is an unconscious lie to oneself. It is such self-deception that can lead to distortion. logical thinking, which in turn leads to the most problematic mental disorders. Highly developed logical thinking is the main sign smart person. A smart person is used to being honest.

 

Dependencies

 

Perhaps the strongest manifestation of non-freedom is addiction. A person who has not received spiritual development in childhood, or who does not receive it now, is subject to various addictions. He subconsciously fills "empty places" with excesses.

All dependencies are very similar, because they are the same in nature. When addiction occurs, a gradual decrease in the amount occurs ways to enjoy, up to one. And this only way, demanding ever greater offerings, gradually subjugates a person to itself, depriving him of his freedom. Over time, a person ceases to enjoy his addiction, he increases the number of actions or substances taken, but does not reach it. Instead, he receives severe displeasure in the absence of the very substances, and their use temporarily eliminates this displeasure. The process is transformed from the principle: normal, drank - great, in principle: bad, drank - normal. Thus, a person voluntarily, imperceptibly, becomes a slave, and for his own money and health, having received nothing in return.

There are many types of dependencies. Here is a couple of widespread but little known.

 

Dependence on hoarding money

 

Findependence (financial trap) is a dependence on their own finances, that is, on their own funds, more precisely from increasing their number. Many have a tendency to accumulate, but dependence develops under certain circumstances. For example, it can occur in an entrepreneur building his financial empire, or in an official taking bribes.

Often some people wonder: why «such an official » so much money? The answer to this question is sometimes unknown to the official himself. And the answer is simple: he does not need money, he needs the process of their accumulation, because he enjoys it. Initially giving this lesson a large amount of attention and effort, over time such a person is completely «given » to this process. Neuromodiators, mainly dopamine, are allocated in very large quantities for huge amounts.

Over time, a person ceases to enjoy normal, natural things for a person, and receives it in horse doses only from the understanding that the amount of savings has increased. Moreover, the amount of savings itself is unimportant, spending this money is still not enough imagination. And if enough, then in any case, pleasure is still already received in full, and beyond that. The accumulation process is important, that is, a planned increase in the amount. So the means to achieve the goal becomes the goal itself. Defeating such a relationship is extremely important because it is by no means unsafe.

 

Fitness addiction

 

Unhealthy attachment to exercise.

During and after, performing sports exercises in the gym, a person feels a rush of vigor and good mood. This is the result of endorphins. The body regards the physical burden in the gym as a struggle for survival, and synthesizes substances that cause a surge of strength and affect the emotional state. Some people here also manage to abuse – «they sit down » on the hormones of joy and exhaust themselves in the hall until it is impossible.

The first prevention of dependencies – the presence of conscious beliefs, principles and self-discipline.

Self-discipline – a person’s ability to execute his own commands. In the absence of self-discipline, a person becomes dependent on desires or their absence. Moreover, the nature of the origin of these desires is very foggy.

 

 

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